Word of the Week: Kismet
Kismet means “fate/destiny”
In America, we tend to romanticize the idea of kismet and this post is no different.
I’ve been in my optimistic era lately and it’s filled with kismet, karmic catches and curiosity. Alright, enough of the rhyming! I am a true believer in “WHAT IS FOR YOU WILL NOT PASS YOU.”
I believe in it professionally and romantically.
Romantically
While I remain off-market and uninterested, I still feel that the exact, perfect-for-me person will find me. It’s just a matter of refraining from settling for timing, loneliness, “passion”, or desperation. In addition to this, the time spent alone is not wasted. I am working, constantly, on becoming a better me. I am putting myself in situations that will bear fruit so that I can enjoy life later on — hopefully with the perfect-for-me person. These years alone are best spent filling my mind and body with pertinent information:
What do I need when low on motivation?
How and when do I communicate best?
As an introvert, how do I share time in a relationship?
When it comes to both small and big talk, do I pull my weight? Can we about actual issues of the world or can I only quote what I saw in a meme on Instagram?
Intellectually, am I where I should be to then require that my partner be smart? Have x degree? Have x profession?
Financially, can I pull my own weight, because ideally, it’ll be years before we share a space or accounts?
Mentally, can I operate as an independent and as a partner? Or am I too co-dependent to make it on my own?
These are just some questions that we can ask ourselves when considering whether or not we’re even ready for a relationship. So many of us kid ourselves by saying, “Oh I’m working on me.” When what they really means is, they are entertaining anything that will entertain them but won’t commit to them.
Don’t miss out on your kismet while playing yourself into thinking that you’re doing work on yourself. It’s much less work to just work on yourself (and you might find it fun)!
Professionally
Professionally, I don’t mean that the perfect job will just land in my lap, but I do mean that when I apply and interview, it’ll be mine because it’s meant to be.
I’ve been waiting for the perfect job for YEARS, but more importantly, I am making sure that the pendelum swings both ways on that hire. I am adapting my skills, maintaining my work ethic, and broadening my knowledge base so that the company that picks me up feels that it was fate or kismet that brought me to them.
Professionally, we ask for so much, on a small scale we ask for respect and human decency, and on a large scale we ask for work-life balance and higher pay. Shouldn’t we give more in return?
In an attempt to not miss out on my professional kismet, I am doing the work to ensure that I land where I belong, where I can be happy, and where I can be the best employee I can be.
Best,
Bree