LXXX:... Would I Have Any Regrets?

Life is unpredictable, and I oftentimes wonder if I’d have any regrets should I reach my last day.

Have I done everything that I’ve wanted? Did I say everything that I needed to everyone in my life? Did I love as hard as I could? And do the people that I love, appreciate, and admire know that I love, appreciate and admire them? 

Would I regret the fact that I haven’t even made it through half of my Bucketlist? Would I regret the fact that I have never found my passion?


I’ve always made it a point to try and live the life that I want. I’ve always walked to the beat of my own drum, I’ve used myself as a gauge for my progress and growth, and I’ve given my all to my friendships and relationships.

These are the things that I take the most pride in. But would others know that I’ve done all that I could to be a force for good in their lives? Would they know that I did all that I could to be the best friend, love, cousin, sister, daughter that I could possibly be? Would they know?

Would I feel that I’ve done all that I could in this life? Would I be able to say that I’ve touched enough lives? Have I been a good love to someone? Have I been a disappointment to someone? I have no clue, but there are a couple of things that I do know. 🤔


In this life, I’ve:

I: Seen Paris

II: Fallen In Love With Washington D.C.

III: Had Love, Many Times

🙄, Let’s be real! I’ve loved many times but was it returned? Obviously not considering the way they all go.

The goal is always to love and be loved, but Let’s Be Real, as we move more towards an easy and selfish existence, finding love is getting to be more and more impossible. People are there for the easy and fun part of the ride but they are gone the second things become work —- and this is definitely not love.

So, I doubt that I’ve experienced a returned or even real love, but I have definitely loved someone and there’s no greater [or scarier] feeling. 💕

IV: Had Bestfriends Galore

V: Eaten A Ton

VI: Seen Seattle

VII: Walked Through Huge Trees and Beautiful Snow In Virginia

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VIII: Learned To Ride A Bike(Twice)/Longboard

Now, things with wheels, apart from cars, are obviously not for me, but I like getting out there and trying new things. And, who could’ve known that seeing new cities by bike or longboard could be so exciting?!

Now, things with wheels, apart from cars, are obviously not for me, but I like getting out there and trying new things. And, who could’ve known that seeing new cities by bike or longboard could be so exciting?!

IX: Been A Wrestler

X: Been/Am A Ballet Dancer

My secret love that no one gets to see me do. 😉  Sometimes you just need something that’s all yours.

My secret love that no one gets to see me do. 😉

Sometimes you just need something that’s all yours.

XI: Been To du mussée du Louvre

XII: Had Many Regrets

So many people that I regret associating with; so much love that I regret giving; and so much pain that I regret causing and so much pain that I regret giving my time. But, without any of these things, I wouldn’t have learned so many lessons.

I’ll keep the past regrets, but I’m definitely on a mission to do better ALWAYS.


This post is just a reminder to myself to always say what I feel, do what I want, and love as hard as I possibly can. A lot of things and people in this world have turned me off to love and friendship in general, but I know that my love is valuable, my friendship is one-of-a-kind, and I am hilarious to be around.

Those who have chosen to walk out of my life and/or treat me wrong have chosen to do so solely on their own. BUT I REFUSE TO LET THEM BE THE REASON THAT I LEAVE THIS WORLD WITH ANY REGRETS.

So, have I found my true love? No.

Have I effected the amount of change on this world that I set out to? No.

Have I found my passion yet? No.

But, have I traveled, loved, smiled, eaten, and been unapologetically me? Absolutely.

So basically, I would gladly leave this world with no regrets. I hope you all can say the same. 🖤

LXXIX: Blogspiration!

“Where do you get the inspiration to write so many posts [over the years]?”

I get this question a lot!

Let’s call it “Blogspiration” and let’s say that it hits me at the most random of times! Now, I will start by saying that I have experienced multiple droughts where I just had absolutely nothing in the Creative Tank and just felt like such a loser for it. And then I’ve had times where I fully accepted that I had no new ideas and would rather skip a week than put out content that I don’t even like.

But, for the most part, inspiration for a new blog post strikes me as life happens!

For those who don’t know, I started my blog because I had kept a journal for as long as I can remember but felt as though my experiences and thoughts were relatable! So, I took to the streets with my thoughts and, to my surprise, they’ve been very well received.

Life, as I’ve experienced it, has been a crazy stream of goods and bads; crazies and calms; and adores and detests. So, my blog reflects much of that.

There are times when inspiration for a new post sparks while I’m at a grocery store and I just pull out my phone and put the title of the post in. Luckily for me and the way that I work, all I need is a blog post title and I can usually take it from there. The ideas just flow.

But, for bloggers out there struggling, here are some topics that I’ve covered and some that I haven’t. My hope is that this post will be helpful to any of you out there who may be suffering in the “new post” department:

new post topic ideas:

  • Favorite Youtubers/Instagram Accts

  • Diet and Exercise - always big topics

  • Product Review Posts!

  • Pop Culture

  • Politics 🙄

  • Fitness Goals/Updates

  • Law-Related Posts (which I plan on doing more of)

  • DIY Projects

  • Home Decor via Pinterest

  • Top 5 Pinterest Accts to Follow

  • Best Holiday Travel Locations

  • Tips for Other Bloggers

topics I’ve tackled:

  • Beauty product reviews

  • Winery reviews

  • Movie Theater Woes

  • Television

  • Body Image

  • Clothes Reviews

  • Self-Worth

  • Health & Wellness

  • Fitness

  • PR Opportunities

  • Food

  • Travel

  • Holidays

Hopefully this post was helpful to those of you who are currently on a blogging journey!

Happy Publishing! 🖤

LXXVIII: What Happened During The Week That I Said "Yes" To Everything?

Okay, I’m going to start by saying that realistically, I could not say ‘yes’ to everything because this week just so happens to be the week that I got the world’s craziest requests. But, my “Yes Week” is just another way that I like to switch things up for myself.

As many of my readers know, I am a very routine person. I do not like to stray too far from this routine, because it usually results in disaster, but sometimes, I take weeks out where I do things that I don’t normally do so that I don’t drive myself crazy with my routine (i.e. “eat my feelings week” during the first week of school where I eat whatever I want all week).

My Yes Week started with a bunch of agreeing to run errands with my co-worker since she decided to abuse my Yes Week completely (LOL!). It ended with my anti-social self agreeing to go out to a popular rooftop bar in the downtown area of my city. I actually ended up going twice.

Now, this is insane for me because, normally, I steer clear of groups of people and forced conversation (or any conversation, really). But, I must admit, it was enjoyable to get out and chat with other types of people. In my life, as it stands, I talk to a ton of people who are into law so the majority of our conversations are about law or, honestly, just a bunch of lies about themselves. That definitely gets boring!

Now, I won’t lie and say that while out we still didn’t run into “lawyers” who only wanted to talk about law because it definitely happened twice during my Yes Week! But, I will say that it is refreshing to not see the same people that I see day in and day out while within my routine.

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Because of this week, I ended up: going out twice, giving out my number more than I wanted to, making more “new ‘friends’” than I can name, dancing, laughing, eating [a lot], dressing up, getting out of the house, keeping my phone off of Do Not Disturb for the week, and, for one weekend, forgetting all that was going on in my little world.

A lot of good came from Yes Week that otherwise would not have happened. And, although all of the communication and smiling from that week had me exhausted, I thoroughly enjoyed myself, and wouldn’t mind possibly doing it again. Just not any time soon.

One thing to remember for my next Yes Week is that I should not tell people that I am having a Yes Week otherwise, they will definitely ask any and everything of me and then before you know it I’ll be married to a stranger with a cat named Clevis (not speaking from experience).

I recommend that you all give Yes Week a try, and that you let me know how it goes.

LXXVII: Have I Called A Post 'Love' Yet?

If I were to choose a Love Language, then it would definitely be in line with Gifting. Not so much receiving gifts, but definitely giving gifts.

Because I am not as physically and verbally expressive as most, I tend to show affection, appreciation, love, and friendship via gifts instead.

FOR ACQUAINTANCES:

I’ve found that I am an odd breed of person because I don’t even have to know everything about you to think of you and get you a gift if I think that it is fitting for you.

There have been instances where I just met a person and in one of our conversations they mentioned that they were a huge fan of something random. And then one day I am in a store and see a trinket in line with that thing and I grab it for them!

That’s just me! Oddly enough, the people who have crossed my path these last couple of years obviously haven’t had giving people in their lives because, when it’s a gift to a guy, he thinks I’m proposing marriage, and when it’s a girl, she thinks I want to be her best-friend! And trust me, neither of these are ever the case.

For this, I feel so badly that they’ve never had a nice person in their lives and am always happy to be the first! But, I’ve also found that these are usually glimpses into more narcissistic or egotistic character traits that I do not need to align myself with, so I let these people pass me by — gift or no gift.

But lucky for them, they were a thought at some point! Making someone feel special is something that brings a joy unlike any other type of joy, especially to me. Give it a try sometime in whatever your Love Language may be.

For Friends:

The majority of my friends receive gifts like random flowers, tickets to things, gift cards or food.

To me, food is a bond and when I can share that bond with others, then I usually can tell that we’ve crossed that boundary into actual friendship. But, I always say, if I can’t even eat in front of you, DO NOT THINK THAT WE ARE FRIENDS, PERIOD.

In my opinion, friends receive the second best gifts that I give (coming second to family). They get the gifts that show my appreciation for their long-lasting presence in my life, their honesty, their loyalty, and their patience in dealing with me (because I am WORK).

I love and appreciate the friends that have stuck by me and I make it a point to show them.

For Dates/More-Than-Friends, but Less-Than-Lovers/and Lovers:

These gifts are usually more sentimental and I certainly put more thought into them.

Because I am naturally a “gifter”, when getting a gift for someone who is working his way into my heart, I definitely spend a good amount of time reflecting on our relationship up to that point before deciding on the appropriate gift. I think back on past conversations about our goals, wants and needs. I think to things that have affected him and I think to things that he’s said to me. But most of all, because a sense of humor is a must when being around me, I think back to things that have made us laugh uncontrollably. These things usually help me most in putting together gifts.

Over the past five years, I’ve put serious thought into gifts for guys twice! This should give you an idea of how rare it is that I even let someone get close enough to care about getting them anything “special”.

Again, I am not affectionate in many ways, but gifting is kind of my thing. Lucky is the man who convinces me to love em’ (& deeply troubled, let’s face it, I’m a handful)!

Now, it’s your turn, what’s your love language?

  1. Gifts — Receiving gifts

  2. Quality Time

  3. Words of Affirmation

  4. Acts of Service — “Actions Speak Louder Than Words”

  5. Physical Touch

LXXVI: Things To Remember For Your Next Interview?

Interviewing can be monotonous, boring, intimidating, scary, or fun. But, no matter which direction your interview may go, there are a couple of things worth remembering:

First:

Don’t assume that the interviewer will have a copy of your resumé. Bring extras!

Super self-explanatory, but definitely take that extra two seconds and use that resumé paper to make yourself look even better. Print it out and bring it along for extra luck and confidence just in case they ask.

Second:

Remember that you are being interviewed from the moment you step through the door up until the moment that you leave.

Even if you are in a waiting room, keep your electronics out of the interview. You’ve made it through the door, so you’re no longer waiting for that call. Put your phone away for an hour (I promise you won’t die without it) and flourish during this interview!

Third:

It’s always best to practice answering interview questions prior to getting to the interview.

Nerves will kick in no matter what, but still, practice, practice, practice!

Going over interview questions is the monotonous part of the interviewing process. You go over the, “Why would you like to work here”, the “What are your strengths/weaknesses”, and the “Do you have any questions for us” so that its not a jumble of words once you’re in action.

Fourth:

For me, it’s best to be yourself!

Although the vast majority of the world lives in a constant state of fake-it-til-you-make-it, I believe that you get further in life by simply being yourself. I mean, the alternative is having to pretend to be that fake, made up person until the day you quit or are questioned.

Even though I am often awkward and overly honest, these are things that have worked for me (not with people but definitely with employers). Being yourself make it to where there is one less thing to worry about during your interview.

Fifth:

Smile!

Not awkwardly, but pleasantly. For some reason, a smile helps employers get a grasp on what you will bring to the work aesthetic that they’ve already got going. Sometimes the hard lined frowner is not what the employer needs to get the job done, so turn that frown upside down and smile it out!

Now, these aren’t the only things that should be considered while interviewing, but they are definitely a couple of things that shouldn’t be forgotten.

With that, knock em’ dead & get that job.

Best of luck to those currently on the job hunt!