Youth

CVI: Socialization, Circles and Growth!

A MAJOR KEY TO GROWTH AND PROSPERITY IS TO HAVE A LIKE-MINDED GROUP OF PEOPLE AROUND YOU!

Although it’s hard to stay in constant contact with people while also working, schooling and otherwise being occupied, staying in touch with the right people is imperative to growth!

The wrong people will simply have you worried about the wrong things: likes on socials, boyfriends/girlfriends, getting “attention”, going to clubs, constant partying, being seen, taking pictures, etc. These things are all fun, but they are not all that there is to life.

These times, however, will have you thinking that those things are everything. I don’t know how or why this generation fell face first into this age of desperation, but it did and I simply do not want to partake in any of that cake.

A piece to this that many overlook is that the people that you surround yourself with most can also pull you into this same behavior without you even noticing.

I have been making the conscious efforts to maintain a safe distance once it has been made apparent to me that someone that is constantly within my earshot has the wrong focuses. Now, I do my best to not judge based on one or two occurrences, but when I see a constant stream of the same old thing, thoughts, behaviors, etc. I ensure that that person becomes one with whom I converse less and less.

I just don’t want it in my circle.

When it comes to people, I am definitely more of a leader walking to the beat of her own drum than a follower, but I don’t count myself among those who believe that they too cannot fall into a certain type of behavior based on the people that I surround myself with. I truly believe that your circle plays a huge role in defining you.

It would suit us all best to HONESTLY ask ourselves if our actual circle is a good representation of who we are and who we want to be?

Do the people around you motivate you to do better? To be better? Or, to date more, seek attention, find a man, or go viral? 🤷🏾‍♀️


I’ve noticed that SO MANY people’s focus is only on being with someone else. Men are given so much power these days because we’re in the age of women who can’t be alone and are desperate to call anyone theirs. I don’t want those women in my circle. No offense to y’all though. I’m just not on that wave.

Those women will have you dating any and everyone, sliding into social media DMs, and saying you love a person after knowing them all of a month. I’ve had enough bad relationships and friendships to know that I do not need to rush into anything new just to be able to say that I have something (that and I have so much more without).

I want to keep the part of me that appreciates a foundation. I want to keep the part of me that doesn’t accept less than my worth. And I want to keep the part of me that works hard and is, honestly, unstoppable. A huge part of being able to keep the dopest version of myself happily doing this thing called life and achieving greatness is knowing WHO to do it with!

I don’t want a circle of people who talk about greatness, I want a circle of people achieving it. I don’t want a circle of people doing things for praise, I want a circle of people who do things and don’t have to say a word about it because they’re already on to the next project. I don’t want a circle of women who only aspire to being someone’s wife, I want a circle of women who are actually running the show (jobs, cars, money, options).

I am a whole movement on my own, but, with the right circle, we can all be a force for change and all things good.

Choose your circle wisely. 😉

I’m known to walk alone, but I’m alone for a reason.
— Beyonće

Little

Little is a brilliant movie about a journey back to youth and the lessons that come with it!

It was beautifully executed by Regina Hall who plays the adult version of Jordan Sanders. This version of Jordan was over the top & always angry. She always got her way no matter who she had to yell at, step on, or step over!

Marsai Martin played the ‘Little’ Jordan Sanders who was a smart and kind of dorky kid destined to show everyone her greatness. When that went horribly wrong during a Windsor Middle School talent show, however, she vowed to always be a step ahead by being the bully and not the bullied.

Insert Issa Rae who killed the role of April, ‘Big’ Jordan’s assistant and, later, her first friend! I am completely convinced that a lot of the lines given by April’s character were completely Issa’s because of how hilarious they were and because of her Issa-esque delivery. She was definitely a highlight to this film.

THE PLOT

This is the story of an adult Jordan Sanders — the self-made mogul and business owner who is afraid of commitment in the form of friendships and relationships. Her no nonsense attitude, however, becomes her demise when she encounters a young practicing magician who simply wishes that she were ‘Little‘.

The next thing she knows, Jordan Sanders wakes up in the body of her awkward and quirky younger self. The journey then begins! Jordan literally just wants to make it through the day and become ‘Big’ again.

Tragedy strikes when she runs into her nosey neighbor who immediately calls child protective services which results in Jordan having to go back to where it all begin, Windsor Middle School.

That’s White People Stuff Because Black People Don’t Have The Time.
— April
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SHOCKERS

The unexpected gems of this movie would have to be:

  1. Tracee Ellis Ross as the voice of Homegirl, because, QUEEN!

  2. Every line that Issa Rae had. Really…

  3. The cute sing-a-long to Mary J. Blige’s ‘I’m Goin’ Down’, twas’ very unexpected.

  4. The beautiful voice of JD McCrary. Now, I’d never heard of him prior to this movie but OMG he is voicing young Simba in the live action Lion King movie! So, he’s definitely someone that you should put and keep on your radar.

  5. The very cute bond between Issa Rae and Marsai Martin that showed itself throughout the film. I love the little-sister, big-sister vibe that they have.

What In The Black Jesus...
— April

BUT, CAN WE GET INTO THE WARDROBE?

My favorite outfit of the movie has to be the one worn by Issa Rae in the first picture of this gallery — she has on a blouse with tan, orange and red accents and a neck tie & capri trousers with a red and white side seam. She paired this with Chuck Taylors which, shockingly, worked!


I honestly think that this whole movie was a treat. It was funny for both young and older audiences, it was refreshing and up to date. And, it was different!

Definitely a good time at the theaters!

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BUT,…

I cannot end this post without giving roses to the youngest executive producer ever, Marsai Martin. What an accomplishment! And, what Black Excellence you are!

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I mean, at this point, you might as well go get your tickets because it’s certainly worth seeing. I haven’t mentioned all of the surprises, so go and see what they are for yourself or you’ll be mad that you missed it!