Say Less

CVI: Socialization, Circles and Growth!

A MAJOR KEY TO GROWTH AND PROSPERITY IS TO HAVE A LIKE-MINDED GROUP OF PEOPLE AROUND YOU!

Although it’s hard to stay in constant contact with people while also working, schooling and otherwise being occupied, staying in touch with the right people is imperative to growth!

The wrong people will simply have you worried about the wrong things: likes on socials, boyfriends/girlfriends, getting “attention”, going to clubs, constant partying, being seen, taking pictures, etc. These things are all fun, but they are not all that there is to life.

These times, however, will have you thinking that those things are everything. I don’t know how or why this generation fell face first into this age of desperation, but it did and I simply do not want to partake in any of that cake.

A piece to this that many overlook is that the people that you surround yourself with most can also pull you into this same behavior without you even noticing.

I have been making the conscious efforts to maintain a safe distance once it has been made apparent to me that someone that is constantly within my earshot has the wrong focuses. Now, I do my best to not judge based on one or two occurrences, but when I see a constant stream of the same old thing, thoughts, behaviors, etc. I ensure that that person becomes one with whom I converse less and less.

I just don’t want it in my circle.

When it comes to people, I am definitely more of a leader walking to the beat of her own drum than a follower, but I don’t count myself among those who believe that they too cannot fall into a certain type of behavior based on the people that I surround myself with. I truly believe that your circle plays a huge role in defining you.

It would suit us all best to HONESTLY ask ourselves if our actual circle is a good representation of who we are and who we want to be?

Do the people around you motivate you to do better? To be better? Or, to date more, seek attention, find a man, or go viral? 🤷🏾‍♀️


I’ve noticed that SO MANY people’s focus is only on being with someone else. Men are given so much power these days because we’re in the age of women who can’t be alone and are desperate to call anyone theirs. I don’t want those women in my circle. No offense to y’all though. I’m just not on that wave.

Those women will have you dating any and everyone, sliding into social media DMs, and saying you love a person after knowing them all of a month. I’ve had enough bad relationships and friendships to know that I do not need to rush into anything new just to be able to say that I have something (that and I have so much more without).

I want to keep the part of me that appreciates a foundation. I want to keep the part of me that doesn’t accept less than my worth. And I want to keep the part of me that works hard and is, honestly, unstoppable. A huge part of being able to keep the dopest version of myself happily doing this thing called life and achieving greatness is knowing WHO to do it with!

I don’t want a circle of people who talk about greatness, I want a circle of people achieving it. I don’t want a circle of people doing things for praise, I want a circle of people who do things and don’t have to say a word about it because they’re already on to the next project. I don’t want a circle of women who only aspire to being someone’s wife, I want a circle of women who are actually running the show (jobs, cars, money, options).

I am a whole movement on my own, but, with the right circle, we can all be a force for change and all things good.

Choose your circle wisely. 😉

I’m known to walk alone, but I’m alone for a reason.
— Beyonće