We’re so quick to write about and post the good, but what about the unsung hero? What about all that makes you a little less of an easy person to be around? What about the bad and the ugly?
This post is nothing but the bad and the ugly about me. But why am I being so open? Because I think that this world places so much pressure on us to be another person’s idea of “perfect” that many people have gotten used to faking it until they make it. I want to show everyone that you do not have to live this way to get that job, be blessed with that man, drive that car, or to make it. The W that you get just by being yourself trumps the temporary W that you get when you fake it, any day.
So, here it is:
I AM NOT FORGIVING:
I’m not good with second, third or fourth chances at all. I can think of literally one person that I gave a second chance to and he taught me that I should never do it again. I am simply not a forgiving person.
The way I see it, you had a choice. We all have a choice! And when we make a choice and another person is involved, they have the control to either make choices that will negatively affect you or not! That choice of whether or not they decided to engage in that behavior that would only end up hurting me is what I would then have to turn around and forgive them for, but why would I forgive you for something that you didn’t have to do to me?
Answer: I wouldn’t.
I’m just not that person. I honestly believe that people make choices regarding whether or not they will hurt you or be good to you, so I make the choice to always say no when it comes time to forgive. I’m human, but I’m not human enough to sit around and be subjected to the same bad behavior over and over.
I AM NOT NICE:
I just simply am not.
This world does not like honesty — it really doesn’t like anything that’s not positive, coddling, reassuring or babying them and I provide few-to-none of those things which makes me come off as a meanie. I’m fine with this.
I’d rather be honest, real and myself than fake and “nice”.
A lot of people tell me that I should tone down the honesty or just keep it to myself, but I believe that that would just be a disservice to those around me. There are many people that you can be mediocre with, but I am simply not one of them.
The mediocre don’t last long in my life (and neither do the fakes ✌🏾).
I HAVE REALLY UGLY FEET:
I could blame this on the fact that my mom ran me over when I was younger, but I’m pretty sure that my feet are just ugly because they’re ugly.
Luckily for the world, my feet sweat so much that I wouldn’t dare slide around in open-toed shoes anyway. You’ll never have to see my feet. You’re welcome.
But, I do want the world to know that they are indeed ugly.
I DON’T TRUST PEOPLE:
I simply don’t.
I’ve put my trust into plenty of people in my twenty-some-odd years of life and they usually don’t deserve it. So now the default is just set to “ I don’t trust you” and “I won’t trust you”.
Earn it if you can. 🤷🏾♀️
I HAVE INSECURITIES:
I can bet you a pretty penny that anyone who suffers from issues with trusting people also suffers from insecurities of some sort.
Don’t get me wrong, I am fully secure in who I am as a person, and all of that jazz.
The issues come in when I am dealing with other people. Again, I’ve had “close friends” or people who “loved me” completely lie to my face which makes me uneasy in any situation that deals with people. So, my insecurity with others is more of a…:
I know that I’m capable of being a good person to you, but I also know that many are not equipped with that thing that tells you to treat others well and not to lie. So, I’m more insecure in trusting myself to put trust in you than anything else.
I LOVE WAY TOO HARD:
This is not necessarily a bad thing on it’s face, BUT…
This means that when you lie to me and I’m forced to walk away from what I thought was our beautiful friendship; or, when you treat me horribly, justify it, and then I decide that you’re dead to me, I’m usually stuck with that residual love.
Now even though that friendship/relationship wasn’t real to you (hence the reason you lied and/or treated me like I would always be around) it was real to me! Those feelings just don’t disappear.
But, it is the ultimate curse of someone real and of someone who really loves because that love doesn’t easily fade.
I will never be ashamed of how hard I’ve loved people, but I’m usually ashamed of the people I’ve loved.
I’M SUPER DIFFICULT:
There are levels to my difficulty and blame this on me being stuck in my own ways.
I am a person who genuinely loves to be alone. I love my solitude. I love having my phone on DND, and just not being bothered. But, in that solitude, I’ve gotten into routines. So during the random times where I am not alone or am with that special someone, it’s sometimes hard for me to completely leave my routine behind which just comes off as me being difficult.
I promise that I don’t try to be, but hey, what can I do!? Lol
So, these are some of the bad and ugly things about me! Throw into this mix that I’m stubborn, often irrational, and unmoving and you’ve got a full pot of imperfections!
Thanks for reading & see y’all in 2 months! ✌🏾