Since I’ve been working on getting back into my routine lifestyle, I’ve found that I’m more inclined to make a daily ‘To Do’ list. There’s always something so refreshing about scratching things off of that list, so, I’m making one for 30-year-old me! This is basically the list of things that Bree had better do at age 30 because she didn’t do it in her twenties.
Check it out! ⬇⬇⬇
1. BUY THE HOUSE
I have wanted to buy a house for as long as I can remember. I’ve always wanted to be the one who hosted the holiday dinners and have family stay over while we all laugh and cram on the couch to watch sports (or the Nanny).
I want to decorate when the holidays roll around. I want to create open spaces where the light shines in creating the perfect reading nook. I just want to have the space to create the feel that I will wake up to each day. I see how excited I get when I change the rug and throw pillows in my living room so when I think of all that I can do with an actual home that’s mine, the joy overflows!
Now, maybe it’s just being in California that makes it seem as though buying a house is impossible on your own (and also while pursuing higher education), but from what I’ve heard, it kind of is impossible. Too much debt, you know, from the education that they tell you is worth it. Too many penalties for not being married, you know, in the world that wants everyone to exercise independence. And, you don’t make enough, you know, in the world that does not want to pay you when the work is worth it.
So many things stand in my way of buying a house, and have since college. But, for 30 year-old Bree, nothing is standing in her way. She’s gettin’ it!
2. TAKE THE TRIP
My bucket list is full of all of the beautiful places that I’ve been wanting to visit since college when I started it. My hesitation to travel usually comes in, however, when I lack a travel buddy that I can actually have fun with while we travel.
I’ve only been able to travel with one person that I thoroughly enjoyed throughout the whole trip. In my eyes, that person was my perfect travel partner, and this is all that I wait for to book trips! But, 30 year-old Bree won’t need a travel partner! The trips that I book will be just for me and not rely on who I travel with.
So, it’s time to knock a ton of these places off:
La Muerlla Roja, Spain
& more, I’m coming for ya!
3. MAKE THE MOVE
I’ve been wanting to move to a different state for as long as I can remember.
To have traveled to so many great places and seen the different types of people in those places only makes that urge stronger.
I know that, by 30, I will be an attorney and will have taken the California Bar so my options regarding moving and working will be limited. But, I also know that this is not where I see myself making a life, or settling down.
I’ve stayed in this state at the request of others, but found that doing for others brings temporary joy… It’s fleeting. No one will make me happy but me, so if moving would make me happy (difficult as a change this big will be), I owe it to myself to make the move.
I don’t like being stagnant, and it seems like a lot of the people that I’ve let control my impulse to move just want me to be stagnant. I will not find happiness that way, and after this horrible year, I need to chase my own happiness. I have to come first and I’m not waiting until I’m 30 to do so. The saving starts as soon as possible, because I am moving on…
4. AS FOR LOVE…
You love too hard, and men your age aren’t ready (true for my 20’s and my 30’s I’m sure).
Enjoy your thirties. Travel. Take advantage of family time. Start that business. Build that new life in that new location! Decorate your beautiful house.
Love can wait another decade.
[Although I have recently found that I am ready to open my heart up to love... But, along with this, I’ve found that I also have a world of work to do on myself before being ready for the man that I deserve.]
5. DON’T CHANGE for, or because of, ANYONE!
I’ve mentioned it before: when I was younger, I didn’t feel free to be me, to say what I wanted, to do what I wanted (within reason), and to be who I wanted to be.
When I finally broke free from that, I began to stand, fully, in who I am. Yes, I am flawed. Yes, I have a mean streak. Yes, I am impatient and the list goes on! But, there is so much about me that makes me unique. I refuse to lose those things. I am tired of seeing all of these cookie-cutter people trying to be whatever version of “perfect” that they see on TV or social media.
I like me the way that I am (even with all of the growing that I still have to do) and the right people will as well. They’ll respect me. They’ll be there for me. They’ll love me, and I them.
Don’t change for anyone, Bree. You’ve done enough bending and breaking for people who don’t even go the distance in your life and always prove to have been a big waste of time. Leave those fruitless situations alone, move past the pain, and don’t lose your light because of them.
The only change you make should be to make yourself better, and not for any other reason.
30 year-old Bree, you’ll be just fine. This life has thrown a multitude of happiness and a plethora of sadness at you. You’re ready for what’s to come. Just be sure to always GO FOR IT.
Also, remember, pain is always temporary, but regret is forever. 😉